Kids do well if they can

The Collaborative Problem Solving approach of Stuart Ablon and Ross Greene is a profound paradigm shift in working with children who struggle behaviorally. When we believe that kids “choose” to misbehave, “choose” to get in trouble, or “choose” to fail in school, we are coming from what I believe to be a flawed perspective. In…
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Paying Attention

As a mindfulness educator, I find it thrilling that many hours out of my day I get to sit and just notice things. As I practice with my students and clients, I get to sense the air on my skin, feel the support of the couch cradling my body, notice the variety of sounds in…
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Cultivating Gratitude

“Kids, what do you say?” It’s the most frequently asked question of all parents (maybe second only to, “Exactly what were you thinking?”) And the answer is inevitably the forgotten words, “Thank you.” It’s simply too easy to forget, to slip through life without making room for a gratitude pause. To take the ice cream…
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Parenting: Are you a Seat-belt or an Air-bag?

I’ve been in a particularly curious season of childrearing and childworking. I have two kids at home with a lot of hormones, facing violently rapid brain development and occasional existential angst, and I have about 520 kids at work, many of whom are also in the throes of puberty and making some really wacky, seemingly…
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Nurturing Competition

I am a fiercely competitive person. I enjoy racing triathlons and each race I run, I want to do better than I did the race before. (Although as I get older, I more frequently want to simply finish rather than PR!) But competition or “being competitive” is sometimes given a bad rap. The phrase “she’s…
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